7 Steps to Handing in Your Notice with Grace

Leaving teaching is emotional. Ready to hand in your notice and not sure how to go about it?

Leaving a job, let alone leaving a profession you’ve invested years in, can be an emotionally challenging decision and it takes immense courage to step into the unknown. Even if you’ve made the decision to go, the act of actually telling people and putting it in writing can be utterly unnerving, especially if teaching is “all you’ve ever known”. You do possess the bravery needed to navigate this journey and I’m going to share with you 7 steps to help recognise your inner strength, and face the process of handing in your notice with grace.

# 1 Acknowledge Your Strength

Recognise the innate strength within you. Think about how strong you’ve been to get to this point; it takes great courage to let go of the familiar and venture onto new paths. You’ve had the resilience and bravery necessary to make this decision… The fact that you are considering leaving shows you’re valuing yourself more than the role and that you’re determined to choose what’s right for you and your family.

# 2 Embrace Self-Compassion

Leaving a job can evoke a range of emotions, including doubt, fear and potentially grief. During this challenging time, be kind to yourself. Notice if you can speak to yourself with self-compassion and understand that it's normal to experience mixed emotions. Treat your reactions gently and remind yourself that it's okay to feel scared or uncertain. Bravery is not the absence of fear; it is moving forward despite it.

# 3 Define Your Why

Take a moment to reflect on the reasons driving your decision to leave. Clarify your motivations and reconnect with your goals and aspirations - go back to the Love and Loathe task in the “Stay or Go” workshops. Understanding your "why" will strengthen your resolve and give you courage as you navigate the reactions of others. Keep your vision firmly in mind and let it guide you forward.

# 4 Courageous Conversations

Approach the conversation with your employer or supervisor with courage and conviction. Prepare what you want to say, rehearsing your words to build confidence. Remember that you are expressing your truth and making a decision aligned with your values and personal growth. While this may be about them, it’s more about what you need. Trust in your ability to communicate honestly and assertively.

# 5 Managing Emotional Responses

Be prepared for a variety of emotional responses from your employer. They may express surprise, disappointment, or even attempt to persuade you to stay. Stay rooted in your decision and maintain your position. You can empathise with their emotions while remaining steadfast in your choice; you care about the school but about your wellbeing more. Notice what’s about them (and not you) and be mindful of the stories you attach to their reaction.

# 6 Leaving with Gratitude:

While it might be tempting to lay out what you think of the school and wider education system, it’s wise not to burn bridges or risk impacting your reference. If possible, your resignation letter could express gratitude for the opportunities, experiences, and relationships you have formed during your time at the school or college. You can acknowledge the positive aspects of your journey while still recognise the need for change. Leaving on a grateful note will help you find closure and honour the skills and experiences you’ve gained.

# 7 Embracing the Unknown

As you prepare to leave it may be hard to sit with, let alone embrace the uncertainty that lies ahead. It takes immense bravery to step into the unknown and trust in the possibilities that await you. It’s so true that the moment you start looking and begin to be open to new things, doors will start to open. Believe in your ability to adapt and thrive in new circumstances. I have every faith your next adventure will see you making an impact and thriving. It’s around the corner.

Leaving a job can be an arduous and challenging process but remember, you can absolutely do hard things. Keep your eye on one year from now… Honestly, when you look back, you’ll be so heart-bursting grateful that you choose yourself and took a chance on a life better lived.